La Femme Tres Chic: 01/01/2011

Sunday, January 30, 2011

I love this look, It will be one of my looks this spring

Becoming the Person You Were Meant to Be: Where to Start. By Anne Lamott

We begin to find and become ourselves when we notice how we are already found, already truly, entirely, wildly, messily, marvelously who we were born to be. The only problem is that there is also so much other stuff, typically fixations with how people perceive us, how to get more of the things that we think will make us happy, and with keeping our weight down. So the real issue is how do we gently stop being who we aren't? How do we relieve ourselves of the false fronts of people-pleasing and affectation, the obsessive need for power and security, the backpack of old pain, and the psychic Spanx that keeps us smaller and contained?

Here's how I became myself: mess, failure, mistakes, disappointments, and extensive reading; limbo, indecision, setbacks, addiction, public embarrassment, and endless conversations with my best women friends; the loss of people without whom I could not live, the loss of pets that left me reeling, dizzying betrayals but much greater loyalty, and overall, choosing as my motto William Blake's line that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love.

Oh, yeah, and whenever I could, for as long as I could, I threw away the scales and the sugar.

When I was a young writer, I was talking to an old painter one day about how he came to paint his canvases. He said that he never knew what the completed picture would look like, but he could usually see one quadrant. So he'd make a stab at capturing what he saw on the canvas of his mind, and when it turned out not to be even remotely what he'd imagined, he'd paint it over with white. And each time he figured out what the painting wasn't, he was one step closer to finding out what it was.

You have to make mistakes to find out who you aren't. You take the action, and the insight follows: You don't think your way into becoming yourself.

I can't tell you what your next action will be, but mine involved a full stop. I had to stop living unconsciously, as if I had all the time in the world. The love and good and the wild and the peace and creation that are you will reveal themselves, but it is harder when they have to catch up to you in roadrunner mode. So one day I did stop. I began consciously to break the rules I learned in childhood: I wasted more time, as a radical act. I stared off into space more, into the middle distance, like a cat. This is when I have my best ideas, my deepest insights. I wasted more paper, printing out instead of reading things on the computer screen. (Then I sent off more small checks to the Sierra Club.)

Every single day I try to figure out something I no longer agree to do. You get to change your mind—your parents may have accidentally forgotten to mention this to you. I cross one thing off the list of projects I mean to get done that day. I don't know all that many things that are positively true, but I do know two things for sure: first of all, that no woman over the age of 40 should ever help anyone move, ever again, under any circumstances. You have helped enough. You can say no. No is a complete sentence. Or you might say, "I can't help you move because of certain promises I have made to myself, but I would be glad to bring sandwiches and soda to everyone on your crew at noon." Obviously, it is in many people's best interest for you not to find yourself, but it only matters that it is in yours—and your back's—and the whole world's, to proceed. For more...

From: Oprah.com

Love is in the air...

Love is in the air... by Mika St Fleur featuring heeled shoes

Pink, Pink, Pink...

Valentine's day Outfit

Valentine's day Outfit by Mika St Fleur featuring diamond rings

Valentine's Day Outfit

Valentine's Day Outfit by Mika St Fleur featuring light pink shoes

Love this look, some ideal for a Valentine's Day night date.

My S.T.Y.L.E For Spring/Summer

My S.T.Y.L.E For Spring/Summer by Mika St Fleur featuring chunky jewelry

Getting my inspiration outfits together for Spring/Summer.. I am so over Winter.

Saturday, January 29, 2011

My S.T.Y.L.E

I been blogging for the past 2 years and this is my first time I posted my pictures. I am finally sharing some of my style with you guys. I like trying all different type of outfits as long as I am comfortable and feel confidence about what I have on.

enjoy :)
Blazer> H&M
white button down: New York & Company
Jeans & Stripe Tie/ Belt : Jcrew
Shoes are My work shoes
Messenger Bag: RUGBY Ralph Lauren
Watch: Michael Kors
Red Rain boots: Henri Bendel

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

An Example of a Chic Closet..

My dream closet and every female that love clothes and shoes. This closet belong to the beautiful Keshia Knight Pulliam. You may remember Keshia as Rudy from The Cosby Show, but she's all grown up, and currently co-starring in the new season of Tyler Perry's House Of Payne airing Wednesday at 9PM on TBS.Click here for more of her interview with FashionBombDaily.com

all pictures from:Fashion Bomb Daily

10 Life Lessons You Should Unlearn, By: Martha Berck

In the past 10 years, I've realized that our culture is rife with ideas that actually inhibit joy. Here are some of the things I'm most grateful to have unlearned:

1. Problems are bad. You spent your school years solving arbitrary problems imposed by boring authority figures. You learned that problems—comment se dit?—suck. But people without real problems go mad and invent things like base jumping and wedding planning. Real problems are wonderful, each carrying the seeds of its own solution. Job burnout? It's steering you toward your perfect career. An awful relationship? It's teaching you what love means. Confusing tax forms? They're suggesting you hire an accountant, so you can focus on more interesting tasks, such as flossing. Finding the solution to each problem is what gives life its gusto.

2. It's important to stay happy. Solving a knotty problem can help us be happy, but we don't have to be happy to feel good. If that sounds crazy, try this: Focus on something that makes you miserable. Then think, "I must stay happy!" Stressful, isn't it? Now say, "It's okay to be as sad as I need to be." This kind of permission to feel as we feel—not continuous happiness—is the foundation of well-being.

3. I'm irreparably damaged by my past. Painful events leave scars, true, but it turns out they're largely erasable. Jill Bolte Taylor, the neuroanatomist who had a stroke that obliterated her memory, described the event as losing "37 years of emotional baggage." Taylor rebuilt her own brain, minus the drama. Now it appears we can all effect a similar shift, without having to endure a brain hemorrhage. The very thing you're doing at this moment—questioning habitual thoughts—is enough to begin off-loading old patterns. For example, take an issue that's been worrying you ("I've got to work harder!") and think of three reasons that belief may be wrong. Your brain will begin to let it go. Taylor found this thought-loss euphoric. You will, too.

4. Working hard leads to success. Baby mammals, including humans, learn by playing, which is why "the battle of Waterloo was won on the playing fields of Eton." Boys who'd spent years strategizing for fun gained instinctive skills to handle real-world situations. So play as you did in childhood, with all-out absorption. Watch for ways your childhood playing skills can solve a problem (see #1). Play, not work, is the key to success. While we're on the subject...

5. Success is the opposite of failure. Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well. Success is built on failure.

"If all my wishes came true, right now, life would be perfect"For more...

From:oprah.com

Lanvin Flies Cuff Bracelet

This Bracelet are a part of the Spring 2011 Jewelry collections from Lanvin. This Bracelet are such an eye catchy, the details is so beautiful..What do you guys think?

Pictures from :Style.com

Sunday, January 23, 2011

How To Forgive Yourself

As I said before I would be posting Daily Spiritual insight that can help us practice and learn from.
Time and again we've seen the power of forgiving someone else, but many of us struggle with guilt, blame and the inability to forgive ourselves. Whether it's feeling responsible for a death or something much simpler, if you can't forgive yourself, you can't move on. Begin to heal and open your life to new possibilities.
Do you ask yourself, "How can I forgive myself for hurting others and being manipulative?" Spiritual counselor Gary Zukav explains that forgiveness is something you decide to do for yourself.

When You Don't Forgive...
...It's like wearing dark sunglasses that distort everything you see. You also want everyone else to see through these glasses. Forgiveness is taking those glasses off. Not forgiving is like carrying heavy suitcases full of books through an airport. Forgiving is putting the suitcases down and walking away without them. It is lightening up. It is being able to enjoy your life, laugh again, and see the beauty in others. When you cannot forgive yourself, you cannot forgive others. When you cannot forgive others, you cannot forgive yourself. The dynamic of forgiveness is the same in both cases.

When You Forgive...
...You lighten your load. Not forgiving is like wearing dark sunglasses that gruesomely distort all that you see, and you want others to see through the same glasses. When you forgive, it is like leaving behind a heavy weight. Imagine that you are trying to walk through an airport while carrying a heavy suitcase in each hand with another strapped over your shoulder and another on your back like a backpack. It is difficult and painful work to go anywhere. Forgiving is putting down all of your baggage and leaving it behind. You travel lightly. It has nothing to do with worthiness—yours or others'. You and they are both worthy. That is not the issue. The issue is whether you wish to continue to carry your baggage.for more...

FROM: OPRAH

The IT sunglasses for Spring 2011

We seen it on the Run Away and in the Magazines, properly labeled as FENDI Havanna Sunglasses, we will definitely seen my favorite Boho celebrities wearing this babies this Spring from Mary Kate and Ashley,Nicole Richie, etc..And of course My lovely favorite Stylist Rachel Zoe

Availability: FENDI Havanna Sunglasses ($395, 212.759.4646). For additional retailer information, visit FENDI

CREDIT GOES TO: RACHEL ZOE and ALLURE